Passive-aggressive

For some reason I started thinking about passive-aggressive behavior last night. I don't know why. Okay, maybe I do know why... I had a thought process in my head about what I wanted to do in response to a particular situation and my logical side reminded me that those behaviors are passive aggressive. My stepmonster is an expert at passive aggressive. She does it all the time and most of the time I don't think she realizes it - although her daughters and stepdaughters see it with such clarity it's almost blinding.

I was thinking about it so I Googled it to see what would come up. Wikipedia has these behaviors listed under common behaviors for passive aggressive:

• Ambiguity
• Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
• Blaming others
• Chronic lateness and forgetfulness
• Complaining
• Does not express hostility or anger openly (e.g., expresses it instead by leaving notes)
• Fear of authority
• Fear of competition
• Fear of dependency
• Fear of intimacy (infidelity as a means to act out anger): The passive aggressive often can't trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
• Fosters chaos
• Intentional inefficiency
• Making excuses
• Losing things
• Lying
• Obstructionism
• Procrastination
• Resentment
• Resists suggestions from others
• Sarcasm
• Stubbornness
• Sullenness
• Willful withholding of understanding

While I don't think I have a regular habit of those behaviors, some of them definitely ring a bell. Many I don't do on purpose and I don't realize it until later. Hell... writing about it in this blog is a little passive aggressive too. Dammit, Dammit, Dammit. I need to rethink some things.